Jane Austen’s novels are, in the present day, widely regarded as challenging or subverting the social conventions of her time. Based on the observations I’ve made during my current re-read of her complete works, I think this is only half true. Yes, Austen most definitely does take aim at customs and conventions that tend toward pettiness, insincerity, or injustice. But by and large, her novels are stories of learning to function healthily and happily within the framework of social norms. (I’ve got a lot more to say on that topic in a future post.)
And—surprise—despite a great deal of wisdom, she doesn’t necessarily get it right 100% of the time. There’s one point in particular where I wouldn’t agree with Austen’s reasoning; or perhaps more accurately her simple acceptance of a situation.
– plot spoilers from henceforth –
In our book club discussions, we’ve often returned to two seldom-noticed, extremely similar incidents in Austen’s novels. In Chapter 27 of Sense and Sensibility, Colonel Brandon—who, as we will later learn, already knows by this point that Willoughby has fathered an illegitimate child—chooses to remain silent and not to share this knowledge with the Dashwoods after he hears that Marianne and Willoughby are in all probability already engaged. And in Chapter 21 of Persuasion, Mrs. Smith remains silent regarding William Elliot’s true character as long as she believes he and Anne are engaged (or on the verge of being so), only revealing what she knows of him once she learns that there is, in fact, no engagement.
Is either of these instances of silence the action of a true friend?
“My dear,” was Mrs. Smith’s reply, “there was nothing else to be done. I considered your marrying him as certain, though he might not yet have made the offer, and I could no more speak the truth of him, than if he had been your husband. My heart bled for you, as I talked of happiness; and yet he is sensible, he is agreeable, and with such a woman as you, it was not absolutely hopeless. He was very unkind to his first wife. They were wretched together. But she was too ignorant and giddy for respect, and he had never loved her. I was willing to hope that you must fare better.”
Anne could just acknowledge within herself such a possibility of having been induced to marry him, as made her shudder at the idea of the misery which must have followed…And under such a supposition, which would have been most miserable, when time had disclosed all, too late?
It is worth noting that Anne’s reaction to her friend’s withholding of information is no stronger than “some surprise.” And when Elinor Dashwood finally does learn the truth about Willoughby from Colonel Brandon at a later date, she does not express surprise or indignation that he had not told her sooner. These circumstances, coupled with Mrs. Smith’s defense of her conduct (which Anne seems to accept), reveal an attitude toward the sacredness of a marriage engagement that I can only assume is the general societal attitude of the times. Here is one convention that holds a great deal of potential for misery—and ironically, it’s one that Austen doesn’t address or even seem to notice. [Read more…]